SIGNS OF ABUSE

When it comes to sexual abuse in children, there are many possible signs that one can look out for. Some are physical and others are behavioral/emotional.

(Source: mamabeareffect.org) 

PHYSICAL SIGNS

Unfortunately, all too often there are no obvious physical signs of sexual abuse on a victim, with the exception of very young children/infants.

You or your physician may notice, or a child may complain of:

+ Bruising of the soft or hard palate if the child was forced to perform fellatio.

+ Redness, bruising, swelling, or tearing of genitalia or anus.

+ Trouble sitting or walking.

+ Yeast infection, bleeding, urinary tract infection, sexually transmitted disease, or rash.

+ Pregnancy.

Physical signs in older children:

If the sexual abuse is causing anxiety for the victim, they may begin to complain of headaches and/or stomach aches. These symptoms are often overlooked, and a child may be thought to be faking or pretending, or it may be considered a chronic ailment.

BEHAVIORAL/EMOTIONAL

+ Fear of being left alone or around a specific person, or gender (i.e. young children that fear men).

+ Demanding extreme privacy while changing, bathing, etc. Doesn't want people to see their bodies. May wear extra clothing.

+ Talking about or using sexual terms that are beyond their age.

+ Cruelty to animals.

+ Sexual aggression toward younger or smaller children.

+ Inappropriate or sexual behavior:

Exposing private parts

Acting out sexually on other people or with objects.

May draw or play with dolls acting out sexual behavior.

+ Masturbating multiple times per day and/or engaging in thrusting motions while masturbating.

+ Sexual promiscuity 

CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR

+ Moodiness, withdrawal, acting out or becoming violent or destructive, running away, self abuse or making self-demeaning remarks.

+ Acting 'too perfect' - doing everything they're told without question.

+ Very attached and /or obedient to a specific person.

+ Nightmares, bed-wetting that wasn't an issue before.

+ Self-soothing methods, such as thumbsucking.

+ Eating disorders - overeating or bulimia/anorexia.

+ Change in school grades - studying/focusing more than usual or neglecting classwork/skipping school.

+ Alcohol and/or drug abuse.